List 10 things you know to be absolutely certain.
What bothers you and why?
Although I am not able to speak for the world as a whole, I can speak for America, and its lack of humanity-very desensitizing. Everyday I go online and see how people will defend evil acts and justify degenerate behavior. Even with the treatment of animals, I am deeply disturbed and disappointed. Every day I wake up with a feeling of anxiety and need to pray for America intensely, as well as the whole world. Divine intervention is needed amongst us if we will survive as a nation and collective whole.
Back in 2018, I made a pretty viral video on YouTube about the pros/cons of dating a younger man. On that channel, that was one of my more popular videos with high engagement. Unfortunately, I got locked out of the Google account. Now, since I am back writing again, I figured I will talk about it here.
Younger men to me are big hits, or misses. Trust me, I know that dating in 2023 is like torturing yourself-in the worst way. But if you are a cheesy, sucker-for-love, hopeless romantic, you don’t want to just literally GIVE UP ON LOVE. Back to the pros and cons of dating younger men, here are my three advices.
Pros:
1. They aren’t bitter about relationships and women yet… unless they started early.
Younger men are not necessarily used to the dating scene as of yet. For that reason, they are usually not harboring past hurts from previous relationships. Also, younger men are able to heal a little faster and not take things so personally, per se.
2. They are down to do more.
Since I’m not doing my pros and cons on older men (unless you guys ask), I will speak on one con. Older men are not typically open to fun things because they may feel that they are no longer able to do many activities. The truth is that many are set in their ways, and may not see certain things as fun anymore. Well, that’s not a younger guy’s thought process, though you know you were ready for the world while you were in your youth, and wish somebody would even dare get in your way! Younger men are normally ready for action.
3. Younger men who want to not only please you sexually, but in the everyday life too.
Younger men are so endearing to make you smile. It’s so refreshing and sweet to have such a disposition around you. It’s an amazing feeling when a younger man is courting/dating you.
Cons:
1. The game playing is off the charts!
Younger guys may not be developed emotionally to take a mature relationship seriously. Normally, you have to determine days by taking your time to see how the dynamic will play out. The thing is with a younger man, their games become super annoying and constant.
2. You two may not be able to relate to one another.
Let’s say, for example; if he is in to the PlayStation 5 (gaming systems), and he plays them often, you may not like that aspect of him and this can take you both nowhere fast. It is quite imperative to have time with each other before establishing any commitment. I can almost guarantee that your younger men will show a silly your side that most older mature women will find as a “red-flag”. But you must not disqualify him if most of his traits are promising, for there’s truly no perfect man (nor woman).
3. His unhealthy attachment to his mother, could pose as a potential problem.
OK, I will be transparent, I’ve seen this treat an old man to-having experienced it first hand. The most promising thing to do in this particular situation is to address it early. Of course most women want to have a peaceful coexistence with their partners’ parents, or mother for that matter. Shame to tell you if your man refuses to understand your frustration, and confront his mother early on, you can bet that you’ll never win.
All-in-all, I hope this advice is helpful to you on your longest dating journey. Remember, please, don’t EVER give up on the love you seek!
To be frank, this is a quick rant. are far too many “non-qualified” and “self-diagnosing narcissistic spectators” really needing to stop throwing this terminology around. It seems like everyone on social media is now a psychiatric doctor, and quickly diagnose everyone who may display any inch of the narcissistic personality disorder. This is concerning, especially when it comes to a failed romantic relationship. As soon as one person doesn’t get what they want or desire out of a relationship, the offender is a narcissist. Wow.
There are so many other personality disorders that many people aren’t aware of. Also, some people are choosing to rush into relationships without the proper analysis of their chosen partner. The breakdown is bound to happen. Anyone could tell you a bunch of bullshit to get you on board with them, treat you great at first, but then when they know you’ve fallen for them is when they flip the script. The essential difference to note is most of these traits lie in people who had experienced trauma early in life.
In other words: “you are what you’re attracted to.”
From someone who experienced this relationship dynamic, I knew blaming someone wasn’t the answer. I had to work on myself and correct the lack of boundaries I had, and see my own personality disorder for what it was. Seeking counseling is definitely something key. Practice what you preach, and find an accountability partner to check your mental health too.
Look within yourself, everyone around you isn’t always the problem.