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Author: AzizaSteez

  • Three Pros/Cons in Dating Younger Men for 2024

    Back in 2018, I made a pretty viral video on YouTube about the pros/cons of dating a younger man. On that channel, that was one of my more popular videos with high engagement. Unfortunately, I got locked out of the Google account. Now, since I am back writing again, I figured I will talk about it here.

    Younger men to me are big hits, or misses. Trust me, I know that dating in 2023 is like torturing yourself-in the worst way. But if you are a cheesy, sucker-for-love, hopeless romantic, you don’t want to just literally GIVE UP ON LOVE. Back to the pros and cons of dating younger men, here are my three advices.

    Pros:

    1. They aren’t bitter about relationships and women yet… unless they started early.

    Younger men are not necessarily used to the dating scene as of yet. For that reason, they are usually not harboring past hurts from previous relationships. Also, younger men are able to heal a little faster and not take things so personally, per se.

    2. They are down to do more.

    Since I’m not doing my pros and cons on older men (unless you guys ask), I will speak on one con. Older men are not typically open to fun things because they may feel that they are no longer able to do many activities. The truth is that many are set in their ways, and may not see certain things as fun anymore. Well, that’s not a younger guy’s thought process, though you know you were ready for the world while you were in your youth, and wish somebody would even dare get in your way! Younger men are normally ready for action.

    3. Younger men who want to not only please you sexually, but in the everyday life too.

    Younger men are so endearing to make you smile. It’s so refreshing and sweet to have such a disposition around you. It’s an amazing feeling when a younger man is courting/dating you.

    Cons:

    1. The game playing is off the charts!

    Younger guys may not be developed emotionally to take a mature relationship seriously. Normally, you have to determine days by taking your time to see how the dynamic will play out. The thing is with a younger man, their games become super annoying and constant.

    2. You two may not be able to relate to one another.

    Let’s say, for example; if he is in to the PlayStation 5 (gaming systems), and he plays them often, you may not like that aspect of him and this can take you both nowhere fast. It is quite imperative to have time with each other before establishing any commitment. I can almost guarantee that your younger men will show a silly your side that most older mature women will find as a “red-flag”. But you must not disqualify him if most of his traits are promising, for there’s truly no perfect man (nor woman).

    3. His unhealthy attachment to his mother, could pose as a potential problem.

    OK, I will be transparent, I’ve seen this treat an old man to-having experienced it first hand. The most promising thing to do in this particular situation is to address it early. Of course most women want to have a peaceful coexistence with their partners’ parents, or mother for that matter. Shame to tell you if your man refuses to understand your frustration, and confront his mother early on, you can bet that you’ll never win.

    All-in-all, I hope this advice is helpful to you on your longest dating journey. Remember, please, don’t EVER give up on the love you seek!

  • Brothers could be fathers

    Describe a man who has positively impacted your life.

    Briefly saying, I have a brother who is totally selfless. He really took a protective role that unfortunately our father didn’t do. He really shaped our lives being he was the only male in our household. The blessing of a big brother is something I will never take for granted!

  • Smurfs

    What’s your favorite cartoon?

    Even though I have many favorite cartoons (Scooby Doo included), I always tend to watch Smurfs more to this day! I used to watch a lot of Hanna Barbara (telling my age lol) when I was younger. Oh and Disney, I was totally obsessed. I can say being an early 80’s baby was a great blessing because we caught the almost tail end of amazing creativity.

  • Holiday celebrations

    How do you celebrate holidays?

    Holidays are meant to be celebrated with family. They hold a time where you value the loved ones that are still present, for we never know what the coming year will bring. I usually stay home and cook with my mother, and also eat with my siblings & nieces if we are all together!

    Most of my other family members have passed away, so I just feel blessed to have my close family and friends around.

  • 2023 Positivity

    What positive events have taken place in your life over the past year?

    2023 was positive in the way of me finding my purpose again. I started writing poems on Medium and started this blog, which I plan to buy my domain for it soon. I’ve been wondering around in a fruitless and depressing manner for many years. However, this year brought me back to spirit like I had in high school. Plus I took another college course (I haven’t been in 9 years), found my independence again, and started praying more. This all have made a huge difference in my life, and I am beyond grateful! 🤍💕🤍

  • Dear Narcissist Accusers, You Are The True Narcissist Yourself

    To be frank, this is a quick rant. are far too many “non-qualified” and “self-diagnosing narcissistic spectators” really needing to stop throwing this terminology around. It seems like everyone on social media is now a psychiatric doctor, and quickly diagnose everyone who may display any inch of the narcissistic personality disorder. This is concerning, especially when it comes to a failed romantic relationship. As soon as one person doesn’t get what they want or desire out of a relationship, the offender is a narcissist. Wow.

    There are so many other personality disorders that many people aren’t aware of. Also, some people are choosing to rush into relationships without the proper analysis of their chosen partner. The breakdown is bound to happen. Anyone could tell you a bunch of bullshit to get you on board with them, treat you great at first, but then when they know you’ve fallen for them is when they flip the script. The essential difference to note is most of these traits lie in people who had experienced trauma early in life.

    In other words: “you are what you’re attracted to.”

    From someone who experienced this relationship dynamic, I knew blaming someone wasn’t the answer. I had to work on myself and correct the lack of boundaries I had, and see my own personality disorder for what it was. Seeking counseling is definitely something key. Practice what you preach, and find an accountability partner to check your mental health too.

    Look within yourself, everyone around you isn’t always the problem.

  • Three beauty products to use daily in 2024

    I am pretty much a minimalist, with a flair of luxurious desire. However, wearing makeup is not something that you’ll see me doing often. Most of the time I’ll do lipstick/lipgloss and mascara. Sometimes, I only wear chapstick for my immediate go-to. Only once in a blue moon you’ll see me wear foundation. At my age, at the last of my 30’s, that it’s normally rare to go without face makeup. But I am blessed with great inherited skin, and don’t need much to maintain my skin (not tooting my horn, just grateful).

    Ultimately, I will wear foundation when I feel inclined to or check out it’s wearing power. I recently splurged on a $93 foundation from Guerlain. The Parisian perfume house released a foundation infused with 24 karat gold flakes and white peony. The item is called: Guerlain “Parure Gold Skin” matte foundation. It promises 24-hour wear, no transfer, and has a SPF-15 sunscreen. The shade I purchased was 7N neutral, and I thought it was a little darker than I expected. Ironically, by the time it dried, it blended into my skin tone well. There isn’t much of a shade range for darker skin tones, which is pretty disappointing but I’m not surprised. All in all, this is a great matte formula and quite luxurious!

    I paired it with a MAC Cosmetics mascara (don’t remember the name) and YSL (Yves Saint Laurent “Velvet Matte Satin” lipstick in 201 Rouge Tatouage.

    You can purchase the foundation mentioned above from Neiman Marcus and the lipstick from Sephora. The mascara can be purchased from MACCosmetics.com.

    Simplified beauty! 💋

  • Natural feels

    What things give you energy?

    I get energy from looking forward to things I love. When I look towards something that would make my life better, I tend to get an inner illumination.

    Also, prayer gives me energy. It makes me stronger and the willpower that I can not give myself. Prayer and getting sunshine livens me and makes me whole!

  • No bueno

    What would your life be like without music?

    I tell you, music is the cornerstone of life. I can tell when I’m totally depressed because I won’t listen to ANY music. A slow death it is. I feel like it’s close to an ending for me…not necessarily a literal death.

    However, when I think about how I need to change my situation I will flip on my favorite tunes. I instantly feel life again, especially if it’s a tune that bring back awesome memories!

    Music is everything!

  • My favorite cuisines

    What are your favorite types of foods?

    Yay! These are my favorite foods in this order:

    1) Seafood-such a delicacy!

    2) This is a toss up. Mediterranean and Mexican food! However, I can eat Mexican food at least twice a week. Mediterranean has some fresh herbs 🌿 and ingredients that make a healthy lifestyle sustainable.

    3) Italian food is so rich, I love it! I love pastas so much, but the carbs prevent me from eating it too much.

    4) Southern “American” Soulfood is some real comfort food. If cooked properly, it will knock your socks off!